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Take your life to the next level. Together.

I respectfully acknowledge that I find joy, healing, and meaning on the land and sea of unceded Traditional Coast Salish Land of the lək̓ʷəŋən peoples (Songhees and Esquimalt Nations) and the W̱SÁNEĆ peoples (Tsartlip, Pauquachin, Tsawout, Tseycum, and Malahat Nations).

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Whether romantic partners, friends, or family, I offer relationship counselling to strengthen your bond with others. Drawing on my own lived experience, I also offer relationship counselling to individuals with physical disabilities and those in long distance relationships. And although I am not an expert in consensual non-monogamy, I believe that relationships come in all shapes and sizes – each relationship is unique; so the one-size-fits-all paradigm of monogamy might not work for everyone. Thus, I provide affirmative and inclusive relationship counselling to couples who practice monogamy and consensual non-monogamy.
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It doesn't have to end in silence.

          You love your partner, and you know they love you. But sometimes, it’s like out of nowhere you both get swept up in a whirlwind and communication breaks down. When those fights happen – as they do with all couples – when nothing you say is clicking with your partner and vice versa, neither of you gets heard, and neither is satisfied. “Why bother?” you might say, feeling utterly defeated.

          Relationship counselling can help you feel heard and understood. It is a space where you can be supported to lean into the hard conversations knowing the goal is for each partner to be understood and validated in the point they’re trying to make, and find solutions from that place.

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Negative cycles have taken over.

          If you’ve ever noticed that you keep having similar fights again and again, like you’re stuck in a loop, I understand how demoralizing it can be. Over time, these negative patterns of tension and conflict can take over your relationship and erode the love and trust you have for each other, leaving you feeling empty and alone. When you try to connect, your partner pulls away… or maybe you both end up exploding, taking off in different directions. Maybe these fights leave you feeling worse about yourself, and worse about your relationship. Relationship counselling can help make sense of these negative cycles that have taken over your relationship and help you find your way back, together.

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Disagreements happen.
          Disconnection doesn't have to.

 

          It’s so hard - after you have an argument - to feel so far from the love you crave, and so alone. Relationship counselling can teach you some ways to communicate so that tough conversations can be a journey you and your partner take together. You both deserve to feel heard, understood, and accepted, and have the closeness you both want with one another. Relationship counselling can help you stay connected while weathering the storm.

What can relationship counselling help with?

What can relationship counselling can help with?

  • Cultivating a culture of care (respect, fondness, admiration, gratitude)

  • Strengthen your relationship.

  • Friendship and intimacy.

  • How to connect and turn towards bids for connection.

  • Expressing your feelings, wants, and needs to one another.

  • Communication challenges.

  • Repairing and/or building trust.

  • How to have constructive conflict.

  • Staying connected through conflict.

  • Compromise.

  • Making joint decisions.

  • Addressing perpetual problems effectively.

  • Repairing or navigating infidelity or addiction.

  • Amicable separation.

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What can early relationship counselling help with?

  • Communication strategies.

  • Managing family relationships.

  • Coping with shifts in lifestyles.

  • Managing similarities and differences in values and beliefs.

  • Roles and responsibilities.

  • Finances.

  • Parenting choices and parenting style.

  • Sex and affection.

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Ready to feel connected again?

Get in touch.

If you have comments or questions, please send me a message or call/text 672-202-3956. I do my best to respond within 24-48 hours.

In-person sessions are offered by appointment at the DataTech Business Centre (1095 McKenzie Ave Suite 300, Victoria, BC V8P 2L5).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

TYPICAL CLINIC HOURS

 

Monday: 5:30 p.m. to 9 p.m.
Tuesday: 5:30 p.m. to 9 p.m.
Wednesday: 5:30 p.m. to 9 p.m.
Thursday: 5:30 p.m. to 9 p.m.
Friday: 5:30 p.m. to 9 p.m.

Saturday: 5:30 p.m. to 9 p.m.

Sunday: 5:30 p.m. to 9 p.m.

*See online booking system for availability.

 

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